Archive for February, 2011

Welcoming Challenges

“Do not quarrel … with your lot in life.  Do not complain of its never-ceasing cares, its petty environment, the vexations you have to stand, the small and sordid souls you have to live and work with… That is the practice which God appoints you; and it is having its work in making you patient, and humble, and generous, and unselfish, and kind, and courteous.  Do not grudge the hand that is molding the still too shapeless image within you.  It is growing more beautiful though you see it not, and every touch of temptation may add to its perfection.  Therefore keep in the midst of life [and marriage!].  Do not isolate yourself.  Be among [people], and among things, and among troubles, and difficulties, and obstacles.”

Taken from Henry Drummond’s The Greatest Thing in the World


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Pornography Corrupts us to the Core

Great table on afaithtoliveby, taken from The Porn Trap by Wendy Maltz, illustrating the damage that unhealthy sexuality causes:

Godly/Healthy Sexuality Pornography/Unhealthy sexuality
Caring Using
Sharing with someone “Doing to” someone
Honoring Shameful
Authentic Deceitful
Enhancing your identity Compromises your identity
Emotional bonding Emotional separateness
Spiritual unity Spiritual separateness
Morally saturated Free of moral convention
Communication is essential Communication is optional
Other-directed Selfish, self-directed
Biblical boundaries Has no limits
Involves all of the person Is visual and genital
Naturally drives us toward intimacy Unnaturally drives us toward compulsions
National drives toward sanctification Unnaturally drives towards depravity
Matures into responsible habits Escalates toward irresponsible risks
Nurtures the spouse Hurts the partner
Is an expression of love Is an expression of usefulness
Humanizes Objectifies
Honors the image/imaging of God in you Dishonors the image/imaging of God in you
Honors the image/imaging of God in spouse Dishonors the image/imaging of God in another
Provides emotional, moral, psychological and relational clarity Produces emotional, moral, psychological and relational confusion

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One Day …

I’m so looking forward to my new body that I’m gonna get.

One where my hands don’t feel tight.

Where my brow doesn’t furrow.

Where my calf muscles don’t ache.

Where my back isn’t sore.

Where my hip can move freely without getting stuck.

Where my legs are the same length.

Where my toes aren’t turned over.

Where any shoes will fit.

I will run to you as fast as I can.

In that place where things no longer break or decay.

Where nobody goes hungry.

Where there is no more pain.

Where people really care for one another.

Where all things will be made right.

No more pretending I’m ok when I’m not.

No more feeling guilty about actually feeling ok  during difficult times.

Meanwhile help us so we can be free to love.

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R + R – R = R + R

My wife Winnie told me this today which really made me think:

Rules + Regulations – Relationship = Resentment + Rebellion

With my eldest kid, I find it easy to have either have too many rules and forget the relationship component, or all fun and no rules.  So hard to get it right.  Sam often asks why Darth Vador became bad.  I need to look that up as I forgot; perhaps his Dad have too many rules without love?  I’m pretty sure Obi Wan really held him back.

I recall Taxes – Representation = Resentment and Rebellion too…

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No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction

Review of Marnie Ferree’s No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction

“For one, women sex addicts often face a double dose of shame because they believe they as women aren’t supposed to have sexual sin. And because the number of female addicts is relatively small (expert Patrick Carnes estimates 3 percent of the U.S. population, with male addicts composing 8 percent), few books and recovery groups are available. “I tell some of my colleagues, such as Mark Laaser, ‘you wrote a great book, but the pronouns are wrong,’ ” says Ferree.”

She mentions that sex addiction (both male and female) is an intimacy disorder: the search for “love, touch, affirmation, affection, and approval.”

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Divided Attention Disorder?

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Should we talk in church about the porn epidemic?

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